The Killer
Comparison. It’s a killer!
Have you ever seen or read something that has such a HUGE impact on you that it feels like you have been cracked wide open? Maybe a video or a sign or a quote or a book just pops right out at you and you know that you have been altered in some way for the better. That you just got a message you needs and you knew you had to pay attention to it?
That it was a message meant for you at that exact moment?
That is how my healing journey started. With a random online sighting. It had such an impact on me that I printed it and cut out the paragraphs I wanted to reread over and over. I can’t remember where it came from or who wrote it but if I did, I’d love to thank them. I do remember that it showed up on my screen large and obvious.
COMPARISON IS A KILLER. CUT IT OUT.
I’ve kept this for years because it had such a instant impact on me.
I had an emotional and physical response to this post. I knew that it was something that I needed to pay attention to because after I read it, it nestled gently and then settled in acore part of me. It felt safe and even seemed to glow a little.
And how cool is:
“From the shape of our cells to the swirl of our fingerprints, each human is profoundly, almost incomprehensibly unique. In the eons of time, amongst trillions of human eggs that have been fertilized and hatched there is only one you. Microscopically remarkable, positively unrepeatable, original and BEYOND COMPARE.”
This is the first “problem” I diagnosed myself with. I was always, ALWAYS comparing myself to others. It was ridiculous, non stop and seriously unquantifiable!
It was such a relieved to have identified a negative, constant behavior that I did everyday. I knew I had to make it a priority to solve it.
The print out in the picture is kept in my bedside take and I often use it as a bookmark. So I have the opportunity to see it and read it often. A constant, consistent, necessary message for me to START TO STOP.
Do you compare? Be aware. (K, that’s a bit 80s safety video-ish, but it works! … and I kinda like it. How can we truly find out who we genuinely are if we are always comparing our lives, habits, Sunday rituals, holidays, jobs, cars …(the list is endless) to others?
Once I started to be aware of how often I was comparing myself to others, I began the process of stopping it.
Easy? Nope. Worth it? Fu*-$^*)&*^-ing right!!
A favorite quote:
Drew Barrymore in the movie, Never Been Kissed:
"All of you people, there is a big world out there ... Find out who you are and try not to be afraid of it."
I’ve kept this for years because it had such a instant impact on me.
